Social commentator MAL FLETCHER critiques the excess of acts like Lady Gaga and Britney Spears

Neither am I implying, as Mike Stock seems to be saying, that almost all of the music industry is poison where kids are concerned. There is positive, uplifting music out there, in almost every genre that kids enjoy.

The problem is that the good stuff is often buried under a barrage of bilge, which is pumped out by cynical, insecure or depressed young artists and even more cynical record companies.

It's time we called on music and media companies to play their proper part in supporting parents who want to protect their kids. Perhaps we need stronger independent regulatory oversight of companies which, experience suggests, are neither willing nor capable of regulating themselves.

It's also time we took a long hard look at how adult behaviour sets the reference points for marketing to young teenagers.

Let's take that last point first. The issue of increasingly blatant sexual references in teen music is just one part of a much larger conversation we ought to have - about the sexualisation of adult pop-culture generally.

Sex and sexuality have become much more visible in the mainstream culture over the past decade. Images and practices that were not long ago only associated with pornography are now, in some areas, becoming part of mainstream media output.

How can we expect kids to steer clear of highly sexualised references if they're on open display in cinemas, because of an inadequate system of film categorisation?

How can we expect young teens to avoid provocative images when they can be found on any magazine stand, where 'soft porn' is used to sell everything from mobile phones to kitchen designs? (I use quotations here, because whether we call porn 'soft' or 'hard', it's still porn.)

When it comes to the idea of regulation, people shudder at the very mention of that other 'C' word: 'censorship'.

Censorship is and always will be a fact of life in any halfway sane society. As a community, we may like to talk the talk of ultra-liberalism, but we regularly censor media content anyway.

We don't, for example, allow purveyors of child porn to produce or disseminate their material. Is that censorship? Yes. Is it helpful? Yes, indeed.

Censorship at its best is not about denying adult people the right to make choices. It's about trying to protect what is positive and healthy in a society, particularly among its most vulnerable members who can't make informed decisions for themselves.

In a social sense, not every taboo needs to be broken. Sociologically, taboos often play an important role in promoting what a society or social group has learned to be important for its survival.

Taboos draw lines that help people to 'swim within the flags' (to borrow an expression from Aussie beaches).

Healthy taboos operate in the background, marking out healthy ethics and values, protecting the young and vulnerable.

The idea that every taboo has to be smashed is largely an invention of the ultra-liberal part of Hollywood. And again, that is motivated only by a desire to sell a product.

Sometimes, while we're distracted by pretentious discussions about the pros and cons of censorship, we fail to see what's happening in the world of our children.

We don't realise how much their minds are being shaped by material that doesn't align with all the values we're trying to teach them - like self-respect and respect for other people.

Perhaps we do need more regulation on the lyrics played out on radio stations. No, I'm not talking about prison sentences for radio proprietors, but perhaps more rigour when it comes to granting radio licences.

We might also benefit from some more regulation about what magazine covers are displayed where in supermarkets and bookstores. It's not about what adults can handle; it's about what children are exposed to.

And why not, even in these cash strapped times, have a little government funding to support private companies that produce internet protection software - the kind of software that helps parents monitor home internet use?

At the end of the day, of course, all of this would be pointless if parents were not closely involved in the lives of their children. Even in the digital mobile media age, parents still have the most power when it comes to shaping their children's thinking.

The goal in bringing up children is obviously to teach them how to shape their own future by making their own wise choices. The key in this is helping our kids to ask their own questions about the music, movies, websites and games they're into.

Questions like: what does this package say about people of the opposite sex? Does it suggest that they should be treated as objects for my gratification? Does it suggest that relationships are about getting what you can while you can?

As parents, we can also teach our children how to distinguish between the reality of an artist's life and their celebrity industry image.

There are practical steps we can take, too, such as refusing an in-room TV or PC, at least until they've shown they can use it wisely. We can maintain family security levels on our internet accounts.

The bottom line is that we remain watchful, without becoming paranoid. If we're too uptight about the big world outside the front door, our kids will develop deep insecurities and become even more likely to look for escapism in music and technology.

At the end of the day, senior Rossini, not every kind of music is good. Sometimes, when it comes to our children, maybe a little more of the less sensational kind might be preferred.